This girl SLAYED her Denver Boudoir Photography experience. Ladies, boudoir is SO much more than just body positioning, it’s all about body language, and you cannot exclude the face from that. That’s why I help coach you for ‘Good Face,’ walking you through facial expressions as well.
Good Face; the ability to project emotions and attitude through facial expressions.
Tell us about yourself girl!
31 year old mother of 3. Working full time at a software company as an account manager. I’m not technically married but after 10 years with this man, I may as well be. I’m not an overly confident person and I second guess myself a lot in my personal life.
Were you nervous about having a boudoir experience?
I was definitely nervous, but that excited kind of nervous. Not only about the kind of photos but nervous that I wouldn’t end up liking any of them. I have a tendency to be overly critical of myself, as I bet a lot of women can relate.
What made you decide to go ahead and take the plunge?
I read a lot of what other women said about this experience, and they all had really positive things to say. I wanted to feel those things too.
What was your biggest fear or challenge coming into your shoot?
I had to challenge myself to give it everything I had. I didn’t want to walk away thinking that I held back, or it could have been better if I had done x, y, or z. I did not want to play it safe. I had to let go of trying to control everything. And I was also afraid that being only 5 months postpartum was going to be really obvious in the pictures.
After your shoot- was it what you expected or different?
I think the whole thing was way better than I expected. I didn’t actually feel nervous or weird once Kenzie started taking the photos. She made everything really easy. Except for the poses, which can be really hard to hold. I think maybe that helped. Just focusing on making sure I was following her directions, keeping still, keeping my body and face doing the right things. I actually didn’t want it to end.
What was your favorite part of the whole experience?
During the shoot I just felt like myself. I didn’t feel like I was dressed up pretending to be someone I’m not, and I didn’t feel like I was just going through the motions. I was present. This was something that is just for me. I didn’t have to think about anyone or anything else. I didn’t have to force emotion that I didn’t feel. I was able to just be me.
How did seeing your images make you feel?
I was so excited to see my images. During the reveal I could not wipe the smile off my face. The photos turned out amazing. Kenzie obviously knows what she is doing and has a vision when arranging the poses. It is really cool to see the outcome because sometimes during the pose its hard to imagine how I look, how the photo will turn out, or whats even happening. These images probably make me feel more like myself than any others. When I see myself in these images, its not the sex appeal that I notice about myself. Its the confidence and strong unapologetic presence of myself that I see.
Has this experience affected your day to day life? Do you see yourself differently?
I guess life just makes better sense now. Most days I just feel like a Mom, I feel pulled in 100 different directions. I don’t do my hair, I wear something comfy, I spend a lot of time with little kid snot, or spit up, or god knows what smeared across my shirt. And my husband is somehow still attracted to me. Well now I know why. When he looks at me, he sees me like this. And it all makes sense, because who wouldn’t be attracted to this?! I do kinda wish I had like a tiny pocket size photo album that I could flip through before meetings or something to remind myself who I am and that whatever I am facing in that moment does not change that. You wouldn’t think a person should need reminding of this, but I really do.
What would you say to a woman who is on the fence about having their own experience?
You will not regret doing this. Even if no one else ever sees the images, it is powerful to look at yourself and validate all the compliments that you have ever brushed off. Its even more powerful to look at yourself and know that you don’t need anyone to give you compliments because you can see yourself, and you are amazing. Or maybe you have a place in your home where you can turn your images into wallpaper and you can bask in your own confidence everyday.
How was it working with Kenzie?
Kenzie was really positive and the comments she gave during the shoot made me feel really confident and comfortable in my own skin. Which is awesome since there wasn’t much covering that skin. She had a plan and there was never a time where I felt lost at all during the process.
Would you do it again?
Absolutely. I would do this monthly but I’d need a second job to support that!